You should learn to clean up your own emotional garbage.

before I met a client who struggled with all kinds of advertising copywriting and design pictures, an outdoor advertisement was revised over and over again for half a year, and even the leader was changed before finally deciding on the sentence to be written at the beginning. At that time, it was less than two months before the opening of the market, and the whole half a year in the early stage was wasted in hesitation. Of course, it is very depressed and irritable to encounter such a situation, because many of them are common sense problems, so much entanglement that they ignore the key points and even affect the progress of the project as a whole. The loss must outweigh the gain. As a server, I often export dirty in private.

when I chatted with a colleague one day, he actually thought I was in good shape. In the face of such a capricious client, although I often complained, I did not fall into a state of mental anxiety. I said to him half jokingly and half seriously, "because I didn't take my work as everything." My colleague is in his early thirties, and he has a house and a car in Beijing. Although the house is small and the car is not luxurious, he has all the things he should have, and the child will soon learn to call his father. But he always seems to be in a hurry every day, as if everything is on fire, and it's easy to get emotional and even over-understand what others are saying, which bothers him a lot. Hearing me say that, my colleague immediately received: "I don't take my work as everything. I go home with my wife and children every day." I said, "that's not the point. The point is that the emotional garbage you generate at work is still piled up in your heart. If you don't throw it out, it becomes a problem over time." I don't regard my work as everything, not that I avoid it, but that I get used to pulling myself out of the exhaustion of work. I want to leave the better side to my life, so I must try my best to get the emotional garbage out of my body every day. " "Yes, my wife often says that I always bring home all the unhappiness at work, which affects her mood. You think, she had prepared the food and waited for me to go back to eat, but when she opened the door, she saw my smelly face. She was naturally in a bad mood. I can understand this very well, and these bad moods will lead to us more or less …. Treat your son badly, so to speak. " I said, "people's emotions, like many things in life, are both good and bad." You should have a wastebasket under your desk, a bucket with rotten vegetable roots and leaves in your kitchen, and a recycling bin in your computer, which can help you clean up all the things you don't need and useless, but because you can't see and touch them, so a lot of people don't know how to deal with it. When comforting others, people often say that they want to control their temper, but in fact, it is only a temporary solution to the problem, because the bad emotions controlled and suppressed by you are still in your body and will recur at any time. " My colleague asked me how to deal with these problems. At that time, I told him some of my own methods. I thought of what I wanted to say, regardless of the order, the pros and cons, and then sorted out nine items, which can be used as a reference for people who are easy to be "uneasy" in the workplace.

1. Find a quiet place and empty my mind. I usually find a time in the afternoon that is not very busy, stand in the hallway for a while (15 minutes is enough, you can't even be free), keep your eyes open (it's easy to sleep with your eyes closed) and let your brain think freely. Many people think that "emptying" means not thinking about anything, in fact, it is not right, you can not think about anything, but to let your mind think at will, do not control or guide. The corridor is usually dark and quiet, and when you stand there, you can hear the sound of the elevator up and down clearly, as if you were in a space capsule. I often imagine myself looking beautiful when I open the door and see the stars twinkling in the dark sky outside.

2. Find a lively place and watch people come and go. Don't think that only silence can calm people's mind. In fact, lively is also useful. Many times when I get off work, my heart is full of anger, so I wear headphones and deliberately walk one stop and then take the bus. When I worked on Dawang Road for a period of time, I walked from Modern City to ITC every day, and that section of the road happened to be opposite to most of the people who returned to Yanjiao, so there was a feeling of "going in the opposite direction" every time. Sometimes I just sit by the side of the road and watch the expressions of people who are in a hurry. It doesn't make any sense, but it's this meaninglessness that relieves my stress.

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3, change the slow songs in your phone most people's phones or MP3 contain those popular love songs with a slow beat. Personally, I think that songs with a tempo speed of less than 80 are more sad, coupled with the fact that Chinese songs are almost all about love, loneliness, licking the wound and pretending to be tolerant, which is more likely to make the listeners feel depressed. So try to change to some fast-paced electronic music, or rock music with a strong rhythm. Electronic music will make people can't help but want to swing with it, and the roaring singing of rock music will let people vent in their minds, which virtually relieves some of the pressure.

4. Stand in the subway and take the steps when you transfer. because you can't get a seat at all, many people stand in the subway, or listen to music or watch videos, and a few read books or are in a daze. It doesn't matter. The key is to stick to the steps when you change to the subway. My own feeling is that every transfer, as long as it is in the direction of going up, must go up step by step, down is a choice to go, or along the elevator. The upward steps are usually steeper and narrower than ordinary steps, and I deliberately put my footsteps right in the middle of the steps, so I need to concentrate. This is actually very boring, but boring things are often the most distracting and do not have any burden in mind.

5, watch B-rated violent action movies I won't recommend any specific movies here, just give a reason. B-rated films are often ignored because they are full of blood, violence and even porn, but they can form a genre.And be liked by so many fans for a reason. When we watch this kind of movies, we will have a sense of substitution, just like some people enjoy playing games and some people enjoy watching romantic films. B-rated films only help moviegoers complete an imaginary adventure through the carrier of movies. This kind of pure venting content will give people a kind of feeling, and those bad emotions have been quietly released in the process of watching the movie.

6. Listening to classic crosstalk varies from person to person. Those who are interested can listen to more. In addition to Guo Degang, the classic works of masters such as Ma Sanli and Hou Baolin can be listened to over and over again, and the common ones at the Spring Festival Gala are not recommended. Listening to Guo Degang is purely sensory stimulation, just for fun, but listening to the works of those masters, in addition to music, you can also learn a lot of traditional Chinese culture (Guo is not uneducated, but has to put jokes in the first place because of market pressure). Classic crosstalk is like a classic song, you can open a paragraph at any time, it does not affect you to do other things. When I cook, I like to have a section of Guo Degang, and follow me to learn to be clever and talkative-- a person who can play with his mouth, his state of mind and mood will not be too depressed.

7. Take a walk in the community after nine o'clock in the evening usually after nine o'clock, the flow of people in the community will be much reduced, and the whole environment will be much quieter. At this time, go downstairs for a walk, shake your arms and legs, turn your neck and twist your waist, which can not only relax your body, but also give you a quiet environment to sum up the experience of the day. Don't think too much about trifles and intrigue. Don't let those worthless trifles waste precious time. I like to walk and think about what I want to write next (subject matter, theme, logic, material, content framework, etc.). This is where several of my articles come from, and this is one of the most valuable times of my day. Of course, you can also think about what you have to do tomorrow, prepare in advance, and you will feel much more relaxed when you go to work the next day.

8. Chat with friends once in a while the premise of practicing this is that you have to have friends. This is no joke. Many people really can't find a friend who is sincere and can talk freely. In the process of chatting with friends, you can argue about something, spread an idea, prove a point, or even talk nonsense without purpose. In short, the relaxed atmosphere in the process of talking will make you completely forget the stress at work. If your friends are peers, you can also talk about the best people and things you encounter at work, because each other will face similar problems. As soon as we communicate with each other and complain, a lot of things will pass away in laughter. But remember: don't keep complaining every time you talk to your friends. No one wants to be your trash can all the time. This is likely to cause you to have no friends.

9, run at least once a week exercise is always the most effective and least outdated way to relieve stress. I will not talk about those professional and profound theoretical knowledge, anyway, everyone who has run has the experience: the sports meeting "opens" your body and makes your body in a state of "excitement". And the fatigue and sweat caused by running will make you feel "emptied", and bad emotions will be discharged in the process. Most importantly, everyone's subconscious will associate "exercise" with the beautiful images of "health and physical beauty", and this beauty can indeed be perceived immediately. And this kind of "can see the harvest immediately" is enough to make your mood happier. Although you may not be running for the devil's figure, isn't it a good thing to kill many birds with one stone by releasing emotional trash and getting a healthy body after sticking to it for a while? Emotions are just a reflection of whether your needs are met. Human beings dealing with their own emotions is a "round-the-clock activity". Many people may be surprised to say it: people spend 40% of their lives in negative emotions. In other words, we spend nearly half of our time fighting all kinds of negative emotions. Especially for the middle-aged, the pressures of marriage, family, work, study, and children's education are intertwined, and it is very easy to produce grey emotions such as anxiety, loss, anger, depression, chagrin, sadness, pain, anxiety, anger, fear, and so on. If you don't deal with it in time, it will not only seriously endanger your own life, but also affect your family and friends around you. Therefore, how to clean up emotional garbage is a very important thing. In real society, the criteria for judging success are very single, and we do not have to measure ourselves by accepted standards. But we can't be too independent. It's impossible to become a saint just because we drink some chicken soup, but we can adjust our mood at any time through these small ways. After all, being kind to yourself is always the most important thing for a person to live.