Who am I married to?

has not updated the weekly coffee story of the aspirin museum for a while. Here today, brother Yue will tell you about three girls I recently received to chat in a cafe. these three girls are 28, 30, and 35.

the first girl is a 27-year-old girl from a small town.

when she entered the store, she was no different from other ordinary girls, except that she was a little thinner, with short hair, a white dress, and canvas shoes. She chose to sit down at the bar and ordered a cup of hot cocoa. this is her first visit to Beijing, she said.

her slightly rustling words were particularly clumsy and lovely, which made me immediately guess that she might be a girl from the south. Through the chat, I learned that she graduated from Jimei University, which is a beautiful city in Xiamen, I have also been there, the wind and clouds are very gentle, everything is slow and comfortable. She stayed in Xiamen after graduation, and the boyfriend she originally talked about in university went to Shanghai, and the two gradually lost contact. She knew they couldn't forget it. That year, at the age of 25, she was under pressure from her family to tell her that an older girl was not good for marriage or childbearing, so she married a boy arranged by her parents, and now she is one of the first post-90s to divorce.

I listened to her quietly, and she told it quietly, and as she spoke, she began to cry. She felt that the marriage was like "revenge for her age". I was two years younger than her, but I felt that she had experienced many years of vicissitudes than me. I didn't know exactly what she had been through, but in the end, she told me that she wanted to live for herself, strong> how to get married, what if she didn't get married, and the important thing is to be with the right person.  content is larger than form. She said she didn't like coffee, she liked sweet ones, and she was afraid of bitterness.

the second girl is a 31-year-old civil servant girl.

she said that she grew up to be a typical good girl in the eyes of her parents and others. She said that she had been very obedient by "normal ethics" for the past 31 years, but she was very sad. She said that she had never lived under the eyes of others, and she had never lived for herself.

if my parents do not allow me to fall in love, I will not have puppy love.

my parents let me have less contact with boys, and girls should be reserved, so I seldom communicate with boys alone.

my parents told me to find a stable job and take the civil service examination, so I would take the exam and do a stable job.

suddenly one day, someone asked me, "what do you like to do?"

she said, "I can't answer this question all of a sudden."I don't know what I like."

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since she was 27 years old, her parents began to urge her to get married. She asked her parents: "you don't let me have puppy love. I haven't been in love. I don't know what it's like to like someone. I don't know how to fall in love. I don't even know how to love. How can I get married?" Who am I married to? "

parents answer: let's introduce you and get married, just the same people.

she said: this time, I will not compromise. I have listened to you, done things I don't like, and lived a step-by-step life. This time, I can't give in. No matter how old I am, I have to find a suitable person. I don't want to be restricted this time. I don't even have the right to love.

the third girl is a 35-year-old girl.

I call her a girl because she is really capable and good at maintenance. From the moment she enters the cafe, she starts to laugh. The smile is very contagious and makes the person who sees it feel better.

she also chose to sit at the bar and tell me her story. She said that she had her own small business and started a company at the age of 29. Now Bao Bao met her lover when she was two years old and 32 years old. Everything is in no hurry, walking according to her timeline, with no anxiety or uneasiness. She was so confident that she even persuaded her parents to comfort their anxiety. She told her parents, "Don't panic, don't panic everything." you will come eventually. When I ask her, some girls will ask, "strong> what if the right person will never come again?" She said that a person's life, absolutely not only love but there should also be more rich and interesting things when they become interesting and confident, naturally a lot of things do not have to worry about, will come.

after talking about the age mentality of the three girls I met in the cafe,

I think you should feel more when you see here at the moment.

the age of thirty is the best age for women, but it may also be the most anxious age for many people. There must be only a few things, love, family, public opinion. but few women put "what they like" first because they worry too much. I don't think so. should conform to my heart. once chatted with Xu Jinglei, Xu said to me, "you are still very young, there are still many unknown, there are more interesting people in front of you." We must realize that we should live loosely.

SK-II throws such a topic to Jiang Xin and Huang Xin, soA conversation video to hear how they deal with the pressure of age:

in reading the original, there is a recently popular video shot by SK-II | Life without limits |, compared with the last broadcast video | she finally went to the blind date corner. This video makes me realize what I should want.

Girls who are overwhelmed by age, girls who lose confidence and self-denial because of age, should know that every age and every stage has its best moment. We should not pass down our fear of age from generation to generation. instead of being unhappy in marriage, it is better to meet slowly. Even if you are alone, you are not cramped, anxious, or age-limited. There are more wonderful and rich things than this. We should look elsewhere and don't let time bind our life.