People are afraid of cold, heart is afraid of pain, love is afraid of light.

as the saying goes, we are predestined to meet thousands of miles away, but we do not know each other.

people who are predestined will meet no matter how far away they are; people who are not predestined will hardly know each other if they are close at hand.

in the world, people are destined to meet and know each other.

as someone said: "everyone who comes to the world is a passer-by, some people encounter it, turn around to forget; some people brush shoulder to shoulder, are bound to look back."

however, people's hearts are easy to get cold, and love is not permanent.

No matter how good the relationship is, it can't stand profligacy, as the saying goes: people are afraid of the cold, heart is afraid of pain, love is afraid of being weak.

if you don't know how to cherish it, it will be far away sooner or later.

01

people are afraid of cold

in life, what hurts people the most is always indifference.

whatever you do, the other person treats you with a cold attitude and is indifferent to what you do.

ignore your heartfelt words, ignore your true feelings, or even ignore all your efforts.

it was supposed to be a movie for two people, but it became a one-person monologue.

this is like the sharpest knife, straight into the heart, hurting people without blood, hurting people without a trace.

as a saying goes on the Internet: "when the lover who was playing with you yesterday becomes a stranger today, there is nothing to say. This kind of injury makes people feel worse. If you are indifferent too many times, your heart will be cold."

Xiaolan and her husband have only been married for less than five years, but now they have nothing to say, even if they sleep in the same bed, they are still as cold as passers-by.

the only communication is either the support of the elderly or the education of their children. in addition, there are fewer and fewer topics between husband and wife, and they don't even bother to quarrel.

Xiaolan said with emotion that when they were together every day, they could not say more than ten words. Two people live but are lonely like one person.

such a life is almost suffocating.

the movie "one sentence top ten thousand sentences" says: "one person's loneliness is not loneliness, one person looking for another person, one sentence looking for another sentence, is the real loneliness."

I think so.

people are most afraid of the cold.

most of the time, if you are cold, your heart will be cold; if you are light, your relationship will be broken.

between people, if there is no mutual relationship, you are you, I am me, indifferent to each other, then this relationship will lose the meaning of existence.

02

fear of pain

I saw a favorite sentence on the Internet before, which said: "the heart is to the heart, you are true, you are good to me, I am doubly kind to you."

but unfortunately, not everyone in this world is willing to change hearts.

more often, it is to pay the truth, but in exchange for a cold heart.

do you remember the news of # Hangzhou Free Hotel # earlier?

Ms. Li runs a snack bar in Hangzhou. In the past, she was born in poverty, but now her life is gradually improving, so she wants to do more to help people who do not have enough to eat.

so she gets up before 3 o'clock every morning to mix noodles and rushes to make a hot breakfast for the sanitation workers and the homeless.

but unexpectedly, only a few days after the activity began, a worker asked the landlady, "I want cash, you give me 2.40 yuan, I don't want steamed bread!"

Ms. Li replied carefully: "Sorry, we only send steamed buns here."

unexpectedly, she was abused and insulted by these people:

"she just wants to be famous. I've seen a lot of people like this!"

"Everyone can't get up early without profit. There must be something wrong with the shopkeeper!"

"who would give food to the homeless cleaners for nothing?"

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44 days later, Ms. Li couldn't stand it any longer and had no choice but to close the shop.

since then, there is no free breakfast of love in Hangzhou.

when the reporter interviewed, Ms. Li cried and said:

"it's hard to be a good man!" I was supposed to do good, but why? Why are you scolded every day? I really can't figure it out. "

in this life, people are not afraid of hard work or hardship but are afraid of chills.

sometimes a word or a look can hurt your heart.

but once a person's heart is broken and his heart is cold, it is irreparable.

as the saying goes, there is no greater sorrow than death.

so, life is in a hurry, don't wrong yourself, don't give your feelings to the wrong heart, don't give kindness to the wrong person.

Friendship or love depends on a true heart.

03

I have seen such a question on Zhihu:

"what do you think is the saddest thing in life?"

the following high praise answer goes like this:

"in the dialog box, those intimate languages are silently dead;

in the address book, those once-familiar names are no longer mentioned;

I don't know when the most important people in our lives are farther and farther away from us."

emotion, if you don't get in touch, it fades away.

as the saying goes, "the relationship between people is like knitting a sweater. It is always faster to be taken apart than knitted, and it is always faster to lose than to get."

some time ago, a friend who was once very close but had no contact for a long time suddenly sent me a WeChat message: long time no see, do you have a minute?

my first reaction when I picked up my phone was not joy, but worried:

"What is the purpose of him suddenly contacting me when he hasn't contacted me for so many years?" Should I reply to borrow money or find a relationship? "

at that moment, I deeply realized that no matter how deep the feelings are, we have to keep in touch, and no matter how strong the relationship is, we need to cherish it.

emotion, the most afraid of indifference.

Sanmao said: with my heart, in exchange for your heart, you will know that Acacia is deep.

in life, no one wants to be neglected again and again, and no one wants to ignore his sincerity again and again.

therefore, when love responds, the heart warms up and the love lasts long.

to put it bluntly, the maintenance of feelings depends on the process of exchange of two hearts.

if you want to maintain a long-term and stable relationship, you can't do without being honest with each other, caring for each other, and being warm with your heart.

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lighten up in watching. May you respond sincerely for the rest of your life, and your true feelings can be cherished.