Forgive him 77 times: "the more men pretend to be great, the more selfish they become." so are women.
The movie is "forgive him 77 times", not "Gone Girl".
Hong Kong films still have the greatest goodwill for love and do not want to burst the fantasies of young couples in front of the cinema screen.
as the apprentice of "the sharpest divorce lawyer in Hong Kong", can Eva know how silly and naive it is to take notes like "forgive him 77 times"?
as shutter confessed, there was an argument when designing this notebook: why write down the bad stuff about a relationship? It can be seen that the motive for insisting on taking notes like this is not the reason why Gillian spicy Wenqing in sell's note.
Eva also told Adam at the end that I left that note on purpose for you to find.
Girls are always infatuated with the "good girl" and can't help forgiving each other and moving. Behind the seemingly sensible and tolerant greatness, I hope the other person will eventually know that he gets the best part in the kneeling apology full of guilt and tenderness in his eyes. (maybe this is the market sell point of Gillian persuading her brother)
after being wronged and having problems with each other, if you don't communicate well, do you go to get a notebook and write it down? As long as it is two people, if they want to go on in this life, they have to forgive each other thousands of times for big and small things. Sometimes I don't like to look at myself, but how can I be happy ever after because I love someone.
Girls never learn when to break up. When traveling in Japan, I was angry to go the other way. I just hope that Adam can catch up. This time the "official" breakup is just an upgraded version. After all, the boyfriend doesn't know what responsibility is, so he doesn't wear a condom when he doesn't plan to have a child, and he ends up having an abortion, which is too aggrieved.
No matter how many things the other person has done to hurt you, making up, again and again, is not so much forgiveness as not so much forgiving as not knowing where your bottom line is. I don't know where the bottom line is, because I don't know what I want.
more specifically, you don't know what you need.
Adam said a line that made me super runaway when she knelt at the wedding: why does this girl forgive me this villain again and again?
shit, it's because you're good-looking and in good shape. Girls just like this kind of big boy who is handsome, athletic, and neurotic, who doesn't care about anything, indulge, and loves freedom. Even if there is a nouveau riche kneeling beside him, he knelt earlier than you, but he is ugly! But the conversation is very popular and the aesthetic taste is very strange. Can you be distracted by the line design? ... "because she can't bear it." Adam, you are very immature.
what girls want is Adam and Zhang Zhiming. Their temperament as a big boy yearning for freedom is very attractive.
after reading Eva's notes, Mandy made up for the injuries one after another and was still with Adam. It doesn't matter that we tied the knot. If you don't like it, you can leave. It's my choice. I know you're unhappy and I volunteered to do it with you.
because! At this moment, Mandy looks at the notes of these lovers' quarrels, and it is a sweet burden. How is better than a person lonely, wanting, and missing the pursuit can not be better. If Adam had called to ask for a relationship instead of asking about the last page of the notebook, we would have seen a girl who immediately turned her head to forgive the "scum man" with big eyes full of tenderness and love.
what these girls want, but not what they need.
Eva's mother said at the funeral that Eva is a good girl and that a girl's youth is limited. I hope you can take good care of her.
Eva is having a hot pot with Mom and talking about the reason for the breakup: I don't want to be like you, because Dad, always crying in the kitchen. Eva's mother said, how can I have you if I don't get married. (I can't remember exactly, anyway, it's a pity that women don't get married and have children in this life.)
that's why Eva's mother said that what women want is often not what they need.
Men always don't understand why women like marriage so much and need a sense of security so much. From Eva, a full-time housewife, to Mandy, a dental assistant who is not good at studying for modern women, to Eva, a white-collar lawyer who graduated from Cambridge, why do you think about knots all the time? Why can't you escape this endless cycle? Who tm does not hate bondage love freedom. But the uterus has a period of use, like the sword of Damocles hanging over a woman's head. Give up using it, afraid that one day you will regret it, or that one day the man who has been saying that he doesn't like children suddenly wants to have a child to play with and grow up with.
what you need is not determined by what you want. What you need is decided by who you are and where you come from.
there is a strange place. It is all set up by "good girls". Why does Eva not let Adam be angry with his father while Mandy allows it?
start with a woman's favorite bag. Eva's bags in the movie are so pleasing to the eye, aren't they? Yes, they are all beautiful Chanel! So when the camera turned to Eva and went back to her mother's house, the mystery was solved: residential buildings with long and narrow stairs, iron fences, crowded small living rooms, angry young dads of grumpy old citizens who drive taxis, and mothers of housewives who were talkative and used to saving money. There is a sharp contrast between the original family and the wardrobe that goes to work every day, but we can see how hard it is for Eva to win the life that Adam ignores or even hates to escape.
Adom doesn't have such ambition. Even if she can graduate from the law, she needs more girlfriends of high achievers. But this kind of freestyle is very charming. He plays the piano very well, his hobby boxing is good enough to be a coach, he has many impractical hobbies, he likes to take pictures and record everything. All this, you have to think about everything sensible. For Eva, who is otherwise responsible for her decisions, she will be attracted as much as it scares her.
Adam can be so carefree, thanks to his parents, a middle-high-class family. Adam's father likes Eva, perhaps because he has experienced such hardships, and he understands and appreciates the girl, while Eva does not let Adam be angry with his father because Eva understands that his father is tough and unreasonable and only loves him behind forcing him to read law. He hopes to complete class replication and hopes that Adam does not have to experience the struggle of Eva.
Mandy, who did not struggle with the class jump, did not experience this, and naturally did not understand the empathy between Eva and Adam's father.
the so-called "forgive him 77 times" was at first a trick played by Eva, but unwittingly turned into an archival analysis that allowed Eva to see the irreparable gulf between the two.
it is not loved or disclose, forgiveness or not, whether a good girl meets a scum man. The 77 injury notes made Eva see what he needed, but Adam couldn't give it.
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Why try so hard to get to this place, then jump into another hole, be a slave to your intuition and desire, pay a never-ending price for your teenage fantasies, and take care of an immature big boy like Adam? A boy like Adam is still very attractive in high school, college, and even just after graduating from college. But not yet grown up, can attract only Mandy full of love fantasies of ignorant girls. And ignorant girls will grow up one day.
there is a man like Shutter, mature and calm, able to listen to her, understand her and soothe her wounds. Don't you work so hard to be free to choose what you want instead of suffocating? Isn't it just to escape the curse of mom's generation?
"Why are you so great?"
Love is but a real deal. We are all selfish, and we all like to act to our conscience with greatness and self-emotion.
when I saw the paragraph when I knelt and begged forgiveness and then went home to a happy ending, I was quite disappointed. There was a kind of uncertainty as if the answer should not have fallen here. It's okay. No. As a romance, it is indeed realistic to some extent in terms of the delicate reality of the details of a couple's relationship and an ending that uses the brain rather than hormones.
but the Hong Kong film still holds the greatest goodwill for love and does not want to burst the fantasy of couples in front of the cinema screen. It is clear that the theme is directed at human selfishness and discussing the change in modern women's view of love and marriage, but the ending scene is so warm and ambiguous from reality, so the film is "forgive him 77 times" rather than "Gone Girl".
we all listen to "actors" and "you listen to me". Unfortunately, the box office has to be supported by young couples who go to the movies.