Can personality be changed?

Today's energy value is very low because the recent work is to make complex quotation forms excel at a glance, all have nothing to do with my money (doing wrong can be related); not only that but also was dragged to attend a meeting that has nothing to do with me, in everyone's drowsy venue in a daze, silently conceived a similar "survival game" adventure story. I often have all kinds of stories in my heart, all of which are full of fantasy and adventurous elements. Some stories can be recalled, played back, chewed, and perfected at any time from the beginning of junior high school to the present. It seems that the purpose of their existence is not to complete and publish, but to talk and comfort when they feel lonely, whether the loneliness occurs on the night before falling asleep, or at the conference table, at noisy parties, in every "theoretically" situation that should be full of a sense of participation.

I am an introvert, so I feel introverted (nonsense), so an interesting thing has happened recently. Shortly after joining the new company, another girl, A, joined my group, and my old colleague was about to change jobs and give advice to both of us on our future work before the handover. Unsurprisingly, An is expected to become an extroverted role of "more contact with people" because of his previous sales work, while I am called a "careful person" and hope to be able to participate in the specific implementation of the project. Of course, we had no problem with it, just because both of them had just joined the job at that time, so we made an appointment to divide the work in half and 50 /50, until we could basically get started, and then divide the work according to the guidance of the old staff. 

A month later, something strange happened. I began to lose interest in trivial work more and more, and I was tired of proofreading every time, while A was able to settle down to check the form and do PPT; On the contrary, it was more for me to follow up and coordinate every time I had to communicate and quarrel because of the workflow. No matter how anxious I was to get angry with each other, I called and immediately chanted a "dear" smile. This can almost be seen as rebellious psychology in the workplace, but the judgment of veteran employees is not wrong. Outside of work, A shows more extroversion, curiosity, and sensitivity to popular topics than I do, and it is easy to open the chatterbox; but except for my job, I seldom take the initiative to chat up with others and lack interest in gossip fashion. After finishing my job, I can go back to my fantasy world in a second. When I was marking the boring form again today, I couldn't help thinking, why? Can a person's character be changed? Or is there no simple distinction between "introverted" and "extroverted" personalities? Or "personality" and "expressed personality" can be separated? I prefer the latter idea. The research on the difference between extroverts and extroverts has been explained in detail in the book the advantage of introverts. The simple explanation is that extroverts are more likely to gain strength from communication with the outside world, and in the process, they are "recharging". Going home to rest is just for a better start. 

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On the other hand, inner people need to find strength in their hearts, and they may not be so interested in external things. Solitude is their way to "recharge". Introverts also need to communicate and share ideas of interest with others, but this kind of communication is limited. It is a Discharge process. Once energy is consumed for too long, introverts will feel tired and their mood will deteriorate. They will yearn for "being alone" and want to "go home". This description can be used as a reference to measure one's true personality, but the "shown personality" is different. 

It is mentioned in the book that if an introvert attaches importance to the distribution of energy, keeps "recharging" greater than "Discharge", and ensures emotional stability, then he may become an introverted but cheerful and friendly person in the eyes of others. About the personality shown, according to my own experience, I think it can include these aspects: 1, true personality; 2, mentality (open or conservative); 3, acquired social skills. -- True character, most of which are created by innate and childhood environment, can be tested and difficult to change;-- attitude (open or conservative) refers to whether or not to accept your personality and willingness to follow your inner behavior to make choices. 

Modern society tends to advocate rapid implementation and teamwork, motivation and leadership, and outgoing people often get more favor, but is that really what you want? For introverts, honesty has many meanings, not only as a sign of self-identity and friendliness to others but also as a clear message: "I'm not the one who talks a lot during the discussion." but that doesn't mean I don't have any ideas. "if you have any questions, please don't talk in circles and think about the opening remarks, just ask me directly." "I am more sensitive to people's emotions, and I am a person I can rely on" and "Don't worry that I will be afraid of loneliness, because I am used to or even enjoy it." There are many acquired social skills, such as using the chart and text communication instead of oral speech; such as controlling "Discharge" time and dealing with the most important communication matters during the most energetic time; for example, the other person is a woman. add a gentle "dear" mantra to close the gap (now I remember, my mantra comes from the environment where I used to work in an e-commerce company). 

The most important thing is to try to do what you are interested in and can do well without embarrassing yourself. Going back to the initial example, the reason why the old staff would want me to do specific executive work is more because I first came to the company and showed an "introverted personality". In the course of work, their experience in related fields in the past few years has been gradually replaced, and he has gradually formed a personality of "quiet but competent for the role of coordination". Outside of work, I returned to that more real "introverted" self. 

Of course, I don't know whether this is good or not. Maybe one day, I will completely change my career and do something that has nothing to do with business and is more in line with my heart. I may always be an introverted worker and learn to gradually narrow the gap between my first impression and my real experience. accurately define your role in the workplace and make "she" a more successful person. The existence of maturity and specialization. By the way, another advantage of introversion is that you like to think about things. Because of today's low energy this little thing, can also write a big article, although I am quiet, but, does not prevent me to show off …. XD