Why don't I always have sense of security? | "when you don't get enough love and care, you will worry about gain and loss."

01.

if you don't get enough love and care, you will worry about gain and loss.

Si told me about her ex-boyfriend, and she said that what she was most afraid of when she was dating was not getting a reply. When she first started to fall in love, she would habitually send it to her boyfriend when she saw anything interesting, and her boyfriend could also get a quick reply. Over a long time, sometimes I send a lot of messages, but I have to wait a long time to get a reply, and sometimes I can't even get a reply. "when I hold my phone and wait for a reply, I always panic for no reason," she said. "

when you fall in love, you panic because you don't get enough love and care, so you think about gain and loss, just like a thread stretching across the heart, facing the danger of breaking. The relationship that makes people most worried about gain and loss is that I don't know what you are doing, I don't know if what you said is true or false, there is no sincere answer in the response I want, and the concern I want is perfunctory.

the sense of security I want is very simple.

Make the right choice by saying yes to our great collection of wedding dresses for fat brides. These collections easily match to all occasions.

is a reply to every message.

how busy people are these days. The news on the phone keeps beeping. All kinds of people stay in the address book. When you pick up your phone and click on the lock screen, there are several unread messages.

I have met the kind of friend who is very slow to reply to messages. Once I watched her habit of playing with her mobile phone. When I clicked on Wechat and returned to the top first, I ignored the following messages. I asked her, "aren't you going to answer? "she said," We'll see later. It's not very important. I thought that when I didn't get a reply from them, those people probably thought my message was "not very important".

02.

sense of security is a "have you in my heart" response.

once Si quarreled with his boyfriend, which should be regarded as a cold war. Anyway, neither of them took the initiative to find each other. Then Si couldn't hold it any longer and called his boyfriend. The phone rang a few times and hung up. If you call again, you will still be hung up. The third time, the boyfriend picked up and asked, "what do you want?" "

" what do you want? "

the weak words that Si Si wanted to say were blocked in his throat. Like a basin of cold water from top to bottom, she was covered with cold. "all right, then. "she replied and hung up the phone.

sometimes a sense of security is just a response, let me know that you care about what I say, you care about what I do, and you still keep everything about me in your heart. This is a kind of embrace warmth, is a kind of comfort when fragile, is a kind of no matter what I do or say, you are still there.

the friend around me who especially has a sense of security in my relationship is Anna. She and her boyfriend keep an eye on each other in their circle of friends. Once when we went out to dinner, we happened to talk about a delicious dessert. She said she had heard her boyfriend mention it before and asked for it for me. Later, after dinner, her boyfriend came to pick her up and took us to dessert very carefully.

03.

being spoiled is the secret of the source of charm.

it is obvious whether a person pays attention to you or not, and whether a person is perfunctory to you can also be sensed.

in the end, it will occupy your feelings like a stubborn disease, make you afraid, make you panic, and make you worry about gain and loss. You are always guessing what he is thinking and whether he has lied to you. You are so unloving that you always try to find affirmation in others.

A person with a sense of security is always loved.

Oscar Wilde said, "being spoiled is the secret of the source of charm."

A spoiled person is filled with the strongest confidence and confidence from the bottom of his heart. And the source of this sense of security is probably the simplest response in an intimate relationship.