Who you will meet depends on who you are.

writer Rhonda Byrne said: "everything around a person is attracted by his inner thoughts and qualities."

everyone has a magnetic field, attracting people with the same magnetic field, and then let nature take its course.

you are gentle and kind, and most of your friends are modest and elegant; you work hard and are surrounded by positive people.

the world is actually a mirror. You will meet someone who you are.

01

the person you hate came because of you

not long ago, went offline to attend a workplace course, the speaker is a well-known workplace coach.

he said that when he was a rookie in the workplace, what he hated most was his direct leader.

get paid more than him, but do less than him.

he has done a lot of work without being seen and affirmed; as long as he makes a mistake, he will be severely criticized. At that time, he often felt aggrieved and complained to other colleagues in private.

later, when he became a leader and began to bring new people, after being severely tortured, he found that the low-level mistakes he had made were really unbearable.

he finally realized that if you think you have a bad leader, you are probably not good enough.

think of a story told by writer Liu Yong.

Liu Yong has a classmate who used to complain about his leader.

I always feel that the leader has arranged a lot of work, offered him a small salary, and often scolded him easily.

his heart was full of grievances, and he felt that with this leader, he could not stay at all.

my work is getting less and less enthusiastic, and I feel like I'm suffering every day.

after hearing this, Liu Yong said slowly: "such a bad leader, you might as well resign." But you have to learn a little more before you change jobs, so that you have nothing to lose. "

in this way, the classmate put aside the idea of resignation, adjusted his state of mind, regarded every criticism as learning, and every extra job as a livelihood skill to learn more.

later, when Liu Yong met him again, the other party smiled and said, "I am very happy now, not to mention the promotion and salary increase, and the leader is impressed by me."

remember that there is a "projection effect" in psychology:

We see the bad side of each other because we project the hidden inside onto others.

the leader who complains about your bad temper may be warning you to work hard.

the boss who criticizes you may be implying that there is something wrong with your attitude.

Yoji Yamamoto once said, "you can't see yourself. If you bump into something else and bounce back, you will know yourself."

the world is like a mirror in which everyone can see his own shadow.

when you are not good, you see no one is good.

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02

your dignitaries have come because of you.

when Sun WuKong was a monkey, he fought with a group of demons in order to keep his territory.

when he learned his skills, he helped him with all kinds of immortal Bodhisattvas on his way to scripture.

when Liu Bei was a civilian, he could only sell straw sandals on the street and bargain with customers.

when he has been through many battles, he can drink and talk with princes all over the world.

you are humble, and most of the people you meet are of the same kind; only when you have value will you have a chance to meet dignitaries.

in his book Heart if Bodhi, entrepreneur Cao Dewang recalls what happened to him when he was young.

he used to resell white fungus and borrowed a lot of money from people in the same village.

on one occasion, when he was selling white fungus from Fujian to Jiangxi, all the goods were seized and became heavily in debt because there was no proof.

in order to repay the money, he went to the construction site to pull a rickshaw, but only two days after arriving at the construction site, when his colleagues were lighting cigarettes, a small flame accidentally burned out the barracks tied up with straw, burning all the food, clothing, and use.

more than 200 people gathered around to make trouble. Some were clamoring for compensation, others wanted to work to earn money, but complained that the scooter was broken and beyond repair.

at this time, Cao Dewang volunteered, saying that he could repair scooters and could help everyone get back to work.

in fact, he has never repaired a car before, but only knows some theoretical knowledge.

it took him 28 days from a novice to a car repairman. During these 28 days, he never left the car repair shed. Food and drink were easily given by the migrant workers who came to repair the car.

just when he was engrossed in repairing the car, emergency compensation materials were sent out.

the battalion commander dealt with the troublemakers and handed out all the compensation, then he thought of Cao Dewang, who had been forgotten in the garage.

as a hero who came forward in times of crisis, Cao Dewang provided production guarantee for everyone to repair cars for free.

the battalion commander was so moved that he gave him all the remaining surplus supplies and food stamps.

these food stamps amount to more than 1000 yuan. You know, those teammates who are clamoring for compensation only get a few dozen yuan in the end.

the most important thing is that when the battalion commander heard that Cao Dewang had been detained before, he went back to the contact person and helped him to issue a certificate, allowing him to get back part of the deduction and pay off the debt.

Cao Dewang did not expect to meet such a noble person at his most desperate time.

but when you think about it, it's inevitable.

Cao Dewang, like most migrant workers, only came to work to make a living, and even had few opportunities to talk to battalion commanders.

recall that the sociologist Hosman once said: "any interpersonal relationship is essentially an exchange relationship."

all the optimism and help is actually the mutual attraction of value.

our life is like a flowing river. what spray you can stir up does not depend on how strong the wind is, but on how wide and deep it is.

03

the person who warms you up comes because of you.

I saw a public welfare video on the Internet before.

A tramp went to the barbershop to have his hair cut. He almost forgot what he looked like.

after the haircut, he looked excitedly at himself in the mirror and took out some crumpled change to check out.

but the shopkeeper refused.

the shopkeeper saw through his shabby and handed him a note that read: Pay It Forward (pass on love).

No sooner had the tramp left than the barber shop owner received a notice of rent due.

it turns out that the shop has long been dilapidated, business is not good, and even the owner's own living security has become a problem.

but the other party looked serious and asked him to move out immediately.

just then, a man in a suit came into the store. He took out a bunch of keys and said that he was the new landlord and that the shopkeeper did not have to leave.

the shopkeeper was so grateful that he promised to pay the rent right away next month.

but the other party said that the rent had been paid 20 years ago.

more than 20 years ago, the man experienced a fire and lost everything.

when he went to interview a real estate agent, he was so untidy that the interviewer gave him 20 yuan. If he could change his appearance, he could consider hiring him.

with only 20 yuan, he found an inexpensive barbershop and met the current shopkeeper.

when he entered the store, he said he didn't have much money to pay, but the shopkeeper received him warmly.

after the haircut, the man handed 20 yuan to the shopkeeper.

it can be seen early that the man's embarrassed shopkeeper, instead of charging any fee, handed him clean clothes.

later, the man successfully passed the interview, studied and worked hard and became a well-known investor.

when he learned that the barber shop was going out of business, he immediately bought the shop and passed on the warmth the shopkeeper had given him.

it turns out that all encounters in this world have cause and effect.

those who give goodwill will receive goodwill, and those who give others temperature will be warmed and cared for.

I think of an experience told by best-selling author Li Shanglong, who once went for a drink with classical and Lu Bai.

Lu Bai asked him why he was willing to help on the signing platform when he published his own book.

Li Shanglong looked at the classical teacher and said that he was nothing in 2015. Why is the classical teacher willing to write a preface for me?

Classical looked at the two of them with a smile and said:

"I help Mr. Shanglong, Mr. Shanglong, not to ask you for anything in return, but to pass on this warmth to the next person who needs help."

Lin Qingxuan wrote in "sending him a bright moon"

"We always keep a kind, tolerant and clear mind, not to mention sending a bright moon, it is possible to send many bright moons at the same time." Because the bright moon is not a gift to each other, but a kind of reflection, which can reflect the light of each other. "

04

"the basic plate of one's wealth has two components. First, your own skills; second, your ability to connect with others. The latter is the amplifier of the former. "

your own skill is "1", and your ability to connect with others is "0".

does not have the previous "1", even if you have a lot of "zeros", it is of no use to you.

A hundred rivers gather in the wide sea, and only in Wugao can there be a Phoenix.

if you want to meet better people, first settle down and practice your true skills.

when you work hard and motivated, warm and kind, all the good things will come as promised.