We are always too rational in our relationship.

when I talked to my friend a few days ago, I gave an idea. He said that the idea was not strong enough to realize, and then suggested how I should do it so that it could be realized more quickly. I had a thump in my heart at that time. Thinking of a boy I used to like, during the global financial turmoil, his funds were very tight. I told my friend that he might be going bankrupt. I wanted to wait for him. My friend was very surprised and asked me, "he's going bankrupt."

if you think so, work is equivalent to making money, so choosing a job with a lot of cash becomes the goal, and the relationship is to get better, so choosing a more secure object in the future becomes the goal. so the rules of the game began to become simple, just pick the right one. This logic is correct, there are no loopholes, but there is always something missing: so whether you like the job becomes secondary, what you want to do becomes secondary, whether you like this person becomes secondary, and whether you are willing to share joys and sorrows with him is secondary. In this age where time is cost, all attempts that may waste time and do not necessarily yield good results become very foolish attempts.

people will say that your idea is not good, it is not appropriate, the timing is not right, and the realization is small, and they will not ask you if you like to do it, and they will not care that it is normal to fail.  people will say that you have a bad idea, it is not appropriate, the timing is not right, and the cash flow is small, and they will not ask you if you like it or not. Everyone rushed to squeeze the narrow gap.

just like at a party, there are all kinds of boys and girls. After the party is over, someone asks you: the man in the back is very handsome. I heard that the family's condition is also very good. Do you like it?

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but for that boy, the only impression is vague, good-looking, quiet, and nothing else. After knowing other information about him, there is only: a boy with good conditions, such an idea, as for whether there is a heart, there is no chemical reaction, at best, he is just a passer-by who is pleasing to the eye.

when many girls talk about falling in love with a guy, they don't know whether they like that person or the additional conditions that this person brings. Just like when many people are looking for a partner, they often make a series of criteria first and then exclude them one by one, and finally, those who meet the criteria who like themselves will become the future object.

but, no matter who is in that position, you will feel like it, you will not be too sad when you break up, and you will only be happy because you have a "date" when you are together, not because you are happy with this person.

he can be this person or that person, as long as the conditions are right and the time is right, no one is different.

people who are rational in their feelings suffer less than those who are affectionate. This suffering is that when you put aside the rules of the world and like it incisively and vividly, you love it unscrupulously. No matter how well you know that two people are not suitable, you have to try it unbelievably. At that time, even if your head was broken and your body was bruised, you thought it was worth it.

some people think it's worth the pain.

A friend of mine said to me: what a pity it is that we haven't been able to walk in a relationship in our whole life. There are so many things in the world that need to be followed, so why should we follow the rules in our relationship?

he is happy, at least he thinks so. Every relationship is full of vigor and vitality, and it has been hurt several times, failed others several times, loved the happiest person in the world, and begged to put down its dignity when breaking up.

there is nothing to regret.

he said.

sometimes I envy people who can enjoy their feelings, knowing that not every relationship will have a good result, but to love is to love, to fall in love is to fall in love, never worry about the sky, and the future is so long. We can't know any variables, but love is gentle one day.