Time knows a man, but he who is in trouble knows his heart.
Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
has read such a sentence, it is very interesting:
this is true.
although it is difficult to tell the hearts of people, a person to you is false or true feelings, walk Huarong Road, you will all understand.
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at the trough, human feelings are as thin as paper
in the movie "two Tigers", Zhang Chenggong and Fan Zhigang are comrades-in-arms and brothers who care for each other with all their hearts.
in the cooking class, Fan Zhigang, like the eldest brother, took good care of Zhang Chenggong:
when Zhang Chenggong was bullied, he tried his best to maintain it and spilled boiling water on others; knowing that Zhang Chenggong loved meat, he secretly saved him a few pieces every day.
Zhang Chengcheng was very grateful and swore that when the two were discharged from the army, he would contribute money, Fan Zhigang would contribute, and the two would work together to open a noodle restaurant.
after he was discharged from the army, Zhang Chenggong went to sea to do business, and his business was booming, and he forgot his old friend long ago.
later, Fan Zhigang was injured in an accident and urgently needed 5,000 yuan for surgery. When he was desperate and turned to Zhang Chenggong for help, Zhang Chenggong refused.
the reason is: "I'm afraid you can't afford it."
he would rather buy a mobile phone for 10,000 yuan than help his old comrade-in-arms.
is ironic and realistic.
sometimes, you think your friend is like a wall. When you are alone, he will stand behind you silently.
but in fact, some feelings are just floating sand. They look thick and disappear without a trace when the wind blows.
Feng Jicai has a good saying:
when you fall, others do not lend a helping hand, do not blame too much, it is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
it's just that they will give you a deep understanding that the human feelings in this world are thinner than paper.
only at this time can you thoroughly understand that your sincerity sometimes cannot be exchanged for the sincerity of others.
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"Fat Cat" Zheng Zeshi is the actor of two Academy Awards. At the peak of his acting career, Maggie Cheung also acted for him.
at that time, he had a smooth career and invited friends all day long.
all this bustle and hustle and bustle came to an abrupt end after he started a film and television company with his friends.
because of the failure of the investment, Zheng Zeshi lost all his money and repaid 80 million yuan in debt.
overnight, he fell from his peak to the bottom of the valley and moved from a luxury house to a rental house.
his brothers, who once held him in his arms, lost contact one by one after they learned that he was in debt.
forced to make a living, Zheng Zeshi tried to borrow money from his friends. Phone calls went unanswered one after another. He visited again and again, but others avoided seeing him.
Zheng Zeshi sighs:
in the trough, it is easy to see through the warmth of the world. Only in adversity can we see through the hearts of the people.
Lu Xun also wrote in the Scream:
when you are happy, your friend knows who you are; when you are down, you know who your friend is.
it's like someone said, "Life is a tree full of monkeys, with buttocks looking up, but smiling faces looking down."
the words are rough and reasonable.
Life is sometimes so realistic: when you are strong, the whole world will be kind to you, and when you are weak, there are the worst people.
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trough, you can best see the trough of a person
. It's like a demon mirror to see who lingers and who appears when you are in the abyss.
when you are pushed to the bottom of your life and trampled on the ground, the person who is still standing next to you is the one who cares about you and is nice to you.
Formula one king Schumacher, who had an accident while skiing in 2013, suffered a serious head injury and became a vegetable.
some time ago, the media broke the news that he had regained consciousness, and netizens were filled with excitement. While everyone was delighted, they also exclaimed, "Corinne is amazing!"
Corinne, the wife of Schumacher, has been waiting for him all these years when the car king was in a coma.
for 6 years, Schumacher has been lying in a hospital bed, living on a ventilator. The muscles began to atrophy, the weight dropped to less than 45 kilograms, and even the height was slowly shrinking.
the doctor felt that his chances of waking up were slim. Friends around him advised Corinne to give up, and some car fans left a message online saying: "it is better to let the car king leave with dignity.". "
but Corinne was unimpressed.
she spends most of her day with her husband. In order not to be harassed by the media, she spent a lot of money building a medical suite at her home on the banks of Lake Geneva to take Schumacher home for recuperation.
to maintain the sky-high cost of treatment, Corinne was duty-bound to sell his villa and private jet. She gave all she had, hoping that one day her husband would wake up.
trough, you can see a person most clearly.
people who care about you will not turn around and leave when something happens to you;
people who are nice to you will not stand idly by when you are helpless.
what others love are your light and glory, but they can read your frustration and loss.
between people, it is a pleasure at first sight.
can go to the end together. Must be able to withstand the grinding of time, withstand the test of adversity, the most real person to you.
like Huang Rong in Jin Yong's works, she changed her little beggar's dress, restored her daughter's makeup, and faced the flattery of the public.
04
Life is like a tide on the sea, sometimes rising and sometimes falling.
but as written in Xunzi:
Life is like this. Once down, you will see a lot of people and think about a lot of things.
when you see human nature clearly, you know not to overestimate your relationship with anyone.
after understanding the cold and warm, we know that we should cherish those who accompany us to endure hardships.
after experiencing the events of the world, we know that the trough is just the normal state of life, as long as we walk, every step is upward.
the German philosopher Nietzsche once said: "whoever will eventually make a sound on earth will remain silent for a long time, and whoever will ignite lightning will wander like a cloud for a long time."
entering the trough is not terrible, it is the "dormant period" of life.
at this time, it is also the best period of reflection, the value-added period. Can let people precipitate the state of mind, see clearly their shortcomings, and constantly strive to accumulate strength.
so when life is not going well, it is better to work hard instead of complaining; instead of fighting in chaos, it is better to grow up quietly.
after the trough, there will be a turnaround.
believe that no matter how long the night is, there will always be a moment of dawn.
as long as you get through it, it's spring.