The opposite of chicken soup

I know some wonderful friends whose beauty is not to feed pigeons in Paris, to seek liberation at music festivals, or to study Liaozhai at night in the snow-capped mountains. They are the people who get up angry to catch the subway, and they are the ones who scold their mothers and bleed internally when they work overtime. At the same time, there are a lot of things in the world that need to be complained about.

the husband of female No.1 claimed to work the night shift, but he saw her coming out of Express Hotel. Female No. 2 just posted a post on the Internet, had a few words of disagreement with others and was blocked. The husband of female No. 3 was flirting with several women on Weibo. She could see them on both sides, so she watched them flirt with each other.

they asked me about these things as a kind of trust in me, probably thinking that when I was middle-aged and had given birth to a child, I had already cultivated a thousand-foot mansion in my belly, with a strong heart, chic posture, and decision-making. So I opened my mouth and asked, "do you want me to tear my face?"

what else can I do but this? It's boring to be reasonable with the facts. The facts are clearer than the parties concerned. "the authorities are confused and the bystanders are clear" is completely untenable in terms of family affairs and feelings. People have been fighting hand-to-hand for more than ten years, and I can't write a prescription even after listening to a few words.

just be reasonable. The world of mortals has been rolling for decades, who knows less than who knows the truth. Without my great truth, people have lived smoothly for more than 30 years. The boat is inevitably narrow again, and it is a bit bullying to peddle my pitiful principles of life at this time.

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if necessary, I can scold your husband and let him know that it's not wrong to say anything because she is your wife. A woman thinks there's something wrong with it. I can form a group to scold the broken station that sealed your account, and we will bully others, then we will gang up and make trouble for no reason, so what? I can also howl in front of two Weibo accounts every day and curse that two people are killed by a car and are killed by each other. As long as these wonderful people are comfortable for even five seconds.

in this chaotic world, we are trembling to maintain a shaky life of food and clothing between unstable families and unstable income, such people, such middle-aged people, but still have to put up with the instructions of all kinds of spiritual chicken soup, saying that they feel unhappy because they are narrow-minded, the husband's cat is teased because he is not good enough, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is contradictory because he is narrow-minded. The reason for not losing weight is that there are defects in quality, but whether you feel tired or not is unbearable. You need sunshine, positive energy, focus on children, immortal cultivation, magnanimity, motionless eight winds, and mother temperament.

isn't this a good opportunity to cultivate immortals in such a predicament? It seems that life is too comfortable, but it is a pity that the chicken soup has gone sour and hastened to take out a sip: am I not good enough? Is it out of shape and declining in appearance? Is fried rice not hot enough? Am I so uncomfortable because I'm small-minded and generous? In the world of chicken soup, even emotions are right and wrong. It is wrong to feel aggrieved, humiliated, hurt, belittled, because you are not confident, not strong, without aura, not queen, if you want to be confident, strong, aura, queen, you must not be angry-with a hundred big eyes.

you see, when I gave birth to a child in middle age, not only did I not become an immortal, I did not become "elegant", "open-minded" and "broad-minded" because of "the accumulation of time". On the contrary, I became more "housewife".

Yes, this is my middle age. I live to the opposite of chicken soup. I am neither generous nor reasonable.

Why?

the husband of female No.1 said that working overtime I was going to Express Hotel to buy a pack of cigarettes, which is unreasonable of you to make a mountain out of a molehill. In the story of female No.2, the website says that women just love to gang up and embarrass each other. You are so ashamed of women! The husband of female No. 3 said, "We haven't done anything, not even a chat?" Don't be unreasonable. You see, the truth is in the hands of others, and it doesn't make sense for you to pose unless you accept it: not only accept it but also be happy.

when I was young, I was very reasonable. I felt that there was always a saying, right or wrong, clarify if there was a misunderstanding, accept the facts, and the day is a logically solvable sequence. There are standards and scales for correction in this sequence. According to the operation mode of this sequence, each other can effectively guarantee or avoid each other. You like to sleep late, I will keep quiet in the morning, I will not order Sichuan food if you don't eat spicy food, and I won't show off if you keep a low profile. No matter how compassionate, concession, accommodation, or even tolerance it is, it is a logically understandable process.

but it suddenly becomes a luxury after marriage or after the birth of the baby. What time children eat has become a matter of dignity, power, face, psychological feelings, feelings between two generations, and grievances in previous years, but not "what time children eat".

when you are bored, forget it, go back to basics, talk less about ism and solve more problems, you will find that the other party has unilaterally declared victory, not only with joy but also with victory and boasting, what are we going to do? I'm sorry, the battle mode is on, let's break the truth.

if you listen to chicken soup, this mode of fighting does not solve the problem at all, not only does it not solve the problem, but also hinders it, so you might as well turn a big deal into a minor one, and there is no way to reason with your family, nor do you need to be reasonable. Turning a blind eye is the big realm, and the charm of middle-aged women lies in that everything can be tolerated.

but in actual combat, you will find that those who do not like to be reasonable are those who are beneficial in "unreasonable". They can either muddle through, or they can fish in troubled waters and do things three times or four times. At the very least, they can not be bothered. And those who want to be reasonable are the aggrieved party, which has nothing to do with the realm of non-realm. Mixing the water is just because the water is clear and some ugly faces have nowhere to hide.

with a little age, I seldom am reasonable. It's not because things don't make sense, It's not that it's complicated, but that you can't reason with someone who pretends to be the Buddha. And the most terrible thing is not pretending to be the Buddha, but the real Buddha.

Li Guangdong wrote such a story in Miyang that the bereaved woman returned to her hometown with her son and wanted to revive her life, but her son was kidnapped and tortured by an acquaintance. The woman's spirit and life were on the verge of collapse, so she fell into the arms of religion. The woman obeyed religious admonition and tried to eliminate her hatred and found peace in her heart. He even volunteered to go to prison to forgive and forgive the murderer face to face. But the result was so bad that the murderer had converted to Christianity-he had forgiven himself a long time ago.

while we are still licking the wound and trying to repair the wound, the person who gives the injury has long forgiven himself and reached their "magnanimity", "tolerance" and "middle-aged demeanor" in peace and tranquillity. The tragedy lies not in human nature, but in that, you can't see both sides of the coin at the same time. In most cases, your pain doesn't get corresponding guilt and repentance, and no one needs your forgiveness.

when you persuade yourself to "let go", "forgive" and "forget", they will soon be singing and drinking. To persuade people not to commit suicide for love is not because of the beauty of life, no, there is no particularly beautiful place to live, to live is just to live, but to want to fight with death to show scars, and in exchange for guilt, is simply to fight for the skin of a tiger.

but where are these bad debts if you pretend to be a false immortal, make some gestures that wave your sleeves, hurt your dignity, and insult your feelings? I am also a person who grows up with one vegetable and one meal, so why should I be humiliated by others? Therefore, there is also a saying that the past does not forget the teacher of the future, there is nothing to forgive, live with no forgiveness, I am afraid to live a more extended life, why force each other, have to forgive yourself?

the most fatal problem in a person's life is to live too long. Too long, love and hate will not come to an end. Chicken soup is always afraid that we will hate and delay our lives, but after forgetting that I have been living for a long time, I simply do not have the strength to regard anyone as the number one forever (except my son). I am just afraid that I will forget and forget the tears I have shed and the insults I have suffered. Instead, I regard them as the inevitable price of growth and be grateful for the masochistic logic of "how difficult it to rejuvenate the country".

No, it's not. The reason why people are not used to hurting each other, I have learned more and more deeply about love. Injury is a pure loss, which can not be recovered in any way or anywhere. So after mighty and mighty into middle age, I suddenly enlightened and stretched my life.

I will no longer imagine how to wear a silk shirt and pearl necklace when I see my ex-boyfriend and ask, "are you all right?" If I meet them, I must say, Brother Pony, are you waiting to get cancer if you don't die for such a long time?