So that's why you don't fall in love?
"this is a very nice person, but not an interesting person."
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A few days ago, the sister of one of my relatives was introduced on a blind date. My sister is nearly 30 years old, and my family is very anxious, so I have been looking for all kinds of candidates for my sister in recent years.
this time, he is a civil servant, not tall, with average academic qualifications, and is said to have an excellent family background. Adults asked around casually, thinking that this young man is good, the family is also reliable, future development has a future, so very enthusiastically let the elder sister go on a blind date.
when I came back from dinner, looking at my sister's face of resentment, I knew the play was over again.
"This is a good person, but not an interesting person." That's what my sister said. So this evaluation was attacked by the moral theory of adults in turn. "what's the use of being interesting? life still has to be reliable." "How interesting you want to be, you are old and old, so don't set the conditions so high." "other people have a career and ability, and they also have a house and a car. If it is appropriate, they should be fastidious about life."
the first intention of adults is that they are afraid that their elder sister will procrastinate any longer, and there will be even less suitable candidates. If you meet a boy with excellent conditions in all aspects, you have to catch him first. Think more about life and less about love.
but love, ah, can not blindly make do.
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A person's values, a person's growth background, this person likes to eat noodles or eat, salted soybean milk or sweet soybean milk, squeeze from the bottom or the top when squeezing toothpaste, leisure and entertainment is drinking, clubbing or traveling and fitness. These seemingly trivial habits may be much lighter than the conditions of having a car, a house, and a status when talking about marriage, which is precisely the most important part of love.
people, always want to be happy.
the previous generation's view of life has always been a stable object, a stable job, a stable marriage. In the values of their generation, there is so much firewood, rice, oil, and salt in their lives that they seem to be emotionally insignificant. Many marriages of that generation are based on the orders of parents, the union of matchmakers, and the "freedom" of free love is gradually fading in the process of compromise in life.
they are always worried that too much emotional entanglement will destabilize their lives. They use the days they are used to teach us how to live our lives.
but that's just life, not love.
writer Liu Yu once said, "in private, how many times have I secretly hoped that my parents would not 'love me so much and that while they loved me conscientiously, I would take a nap, be lazy, and be distracted?" so that I can take advantage of this moment to run freely out of their sight. "
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some time ago, in a very popular article, "Mom and Dad divorced because Dad flipped cigarette ash into the orchid pot raised by Mom and Dad" when Mom chose to divorce Dad, relatives and friends came to dissuade them. They said that Mom just reads too many books, so there are so many things, which man doesn't have any minor problems? The mother in the article said, "Life is too long."
Yes, life is too long. You have to spend the rest of your life sharing it with the person around you. If you just want to prove your happiness in your life, with a life of peace, in which there is no emotion, no love, no affection for two people, it's just a partnership.
there are always people who teach us to make do with love and tell us that there is no such shop after this village.
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but in a relationship that does not give birth to each other, the two people linger on to maintain their relationship, submissively unwilling to violate the so-called stable life and end up slowly fading their enthusiasm for life in the torture of each other.
I don't want to live like this.
I don't want to make do with my love.