Silence is the cruelest weapon in a relationship.
Perhaps the accumulation of disappointment, gradually lost hope, empty-handed, had no choice but to let go.
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I don't remember where I heard this sentence.
"the one who broke up is still in love, and the one who doesn't love is silent."
Xiao J told me why she broke up. On her boyfriend's phone, she saw his Wechat message to his ex-girlfriend. He told her, "for so long, I still miss you very much. I hope you are happy." When Xiao J and his boyfriend were together, it was Xiao J who took the initiative to chase him. From the very beginning, the love in this relationship was no longer fair.
Xiao J knows how much she weighs in his heart, but she always feels that as long as time is long, she is nicer to him, or even nicer, he will be able to forget her and be with him. The obvious neglect and snub in the eyes of his friends were explained by Xiao J as "he hasn't adapted yet." "he's just shy." "he doesn't take the initiative."
it was not until she saw the news that she realized that her efforts in all these times were worthless to him. Maybe in that person's heart, there will always be one person in that position. She was silent and didn't get angry. She just posted Wechat with him silently, saying, "break up."
it's quick over there, reply, "mm-hmm."
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loves someone very much, maybe it is compromised, maybe it is fulfillment, knowing clearly that the other person is not so attentive to him, maybe he can be freer and happier to leave him, so he grits his teeth and let him go. many people say that the person who brings up the breakup is the one who can't let go of each other after the breakup. Maybe it is. Many reasons for breaking up are not only because there is something wrong with the other person, but also because there is no way out without constant compromise.
read Zhang Xiaoxian's book, there is a saying: A man's harm to a woman is not necessarily that he falls in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has something to look forward to, fails to give her a hand when she is fragile, and envies her when she succeeds.
maybe there is more disappointment accumulated, then gradually lose hope, empty-handed, have no choice but to let go. the person who broke up is probably the most serious and affectionate of the two. It is precise because she has lost all the courage to love and the confidence to be loved that she has no choice but to let go and set them both free.
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Silence is the cruelest weapon in a relationship. like it or not, love or not, we always spend a long night waiting for this little possibility, thinking about giving up but reluctant to give up, so we hold on until the last two mermaids break their net.
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many people say that feelings are selfish, and everyone strives for all kinds of interests and rights in their feelings for the sake of their ultimate happiness. Understandably, everyone wants more. A friend asked me, "if you think you can't win more in this relationship, that person won't be happier because of you, or if he falls in love with someone else, what will you do?" At that time, my answer was, "if I love him very much, I think I will fulfill him."
sometimes he makes up his mind that he would rather become the most familiar stranger around him in the future, no more words, no more communication, and give up the relationship that was once familiar, rather than wears away the last enthusiasm between the two people in the torture of each other.
the person who broke up is not unloved, maybe he just loves too much, and that person carries too much weight in his heart that he can't bear to end it in a worse way.
so be it.