I shouldn't have done this to myself.

my friend told me recently that I found that you really have the potential to be a "self-confidence master". I suggest you charge a fee to find self-confidence.

the thing is, she was quite frustrated at that time, had a bad relationship with ambiguous boys, and didn't understand what the problem was, so she asked me one morning, , "am I rubbish? it's nothing. I'm not good at all."

I was so surprised that I immediately wrote a few hundred words of essays, and the theme was "you may be crazy because you don't think you are good enough."

first of all, the appearance and figure. You weigh more than 165100 jin. No matter from the public aesthetic point of view or from an intuitive perspective, you are very standard and good-looking. Let's not say that the appearance is amazing, at least it is lovely after makeup.

in terms of ability and career, whether you have a stable job, company development prospects, double degrees and overseas study experience, although you think it is useless, others do not have it, ah, English and German are so good that others do not envy them.

and personality and EQ are all great. Otherwise, how could so many people like to chat with you? although it is a little funny occasionally, it is very interesting. It is not unreasonable for us to be friends for so many years.

in fact, what I most want to say is the words of Manny, the life mentor: you don't even like yourself, it's hard to like others.

in fact, I know that she must have heard some comments about what happened to her.

it seems that people always fall into a strange circle, that is, they are easily influenced by the comments of others.

Why did you tie up your new perm? Because yesterday someone said that this hairstyle looks old-fashioned; why didn't you talk at the meeting? Because I feel like they're saying I love the limelight; why don't you post a selfie on moments? Because some people say that girls who like to take selfies are mostly ugly in reality.

We are making changes every day, and change is not a bad thing, but in retrospect, how many changes there are, not because you want it, but because others feel bad.

A big change in my mindset this year is that I am no longer obsessed with staying in this city.

in the past, I always felt that leaving a big city and going back to my hometown or a place with less stress is not good in the eyes of others, and I admit defeat to life, or some people will think that you want to leave a city because you are too sad to be lovelorn, and the blow is too big, so I often say that I will stay anyway.

but when you think about it, is there really a reason to stay? Or that I am just afraid of other people's secret opinions, and deceive myself, this is my favorite city.

do you know? This society has a standard aesthetic, a conventional body disdain chain, and even a universal successful template, but do we have to be such people?

I don't think so. It never matters what the world thinks of you. What matters is whether you like your state and whether you follow your heart, make a choice.

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A few days ago, everyone was talking about whether a girl can be a stay-at-home wife. Putting aside the topic itself, there is a certain gender stereotype and discrimination. I have been thinking that the discussion on this topic has also kidnapped some people.

I know that many people are strongly against the return of girls to their families, but have you ever thought that there may really be some girls who just want to live a simple life? they don't attach much importance to their careers in the workplace, but they dare not easily make up their mind to resign and go home, because they may be told that your parents have raised you for so many years that they want you to be a housewife.

and now more and more stay-at-home dads are showing up, but I often see such words under those Weibo comments, you are really a disgrace to men, and you don't feel like a diaphragm when you eat a soft meal.

you see, there are many ways to do leverage in this world.

you got married too early. Some people say that you can't get over it, which is not in line with the spirit of young people; you marry too late, and some people tell you that you are left with men and women, saying that you are no longer popular.

when you go out with make-up, some people say that you are not a proper girl when you look so good-looking; go out without makeup, some people say you are untidy and not delicate at all.

you are an extrovert. Some people will say that you like to be in the limelight, but you talk a lot; you are an introvert, and some people say that you will suffer losses in society and will not be liked.

you find someone soon after you are lovelorn, and some people say that you seamlessly connect with scum men and women; you have been out of the window for too long, and some people say that there is something wrong with you, otherwise it must not have been possible for such a long time.

have you found that no matter what you do, those comments and opinions will always be there, but we can't hold back because of these, or go to the hospital in a hurry to change and cater to them.

only when you really know yourself, know what you want, and then make a choice, can you make the right choice.

and when you think clearly, go down that road and ignore what others think of you, because only you know exactly what you want.